Katyan Roach

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Growing Older, are you living your truth?

Growing Older, are you living your truth?

Wow, you look good, for your age! Black don’t crack! These are all statements that are supposed to make us feel better as we age and even though I love a good compliment as  the next girl, I often wonder why must getting older feel like the perpetual struggle to always look the way we did at 25?

Television commercials are filled with images of young smiling women, telling us about miracle creams that promise to take the years off and there I sit wondering, if that serum really worked, you’d be in diapers! ‘Miss not a wrinkle 23 year old!”

Everyone deserves to look and feel great no matter what age they are but the reality is, as we grow older, many of us cannot and do not embrace our wrinkles, scars, stretch marks and gray hair. We are taught to fight off aging like Neo facing one thousand Mr. Smiths!

Now you might say, “Come on Katyan that’s not true, many women and men are embrace aging and do so gracefully. They let their grays grow out and they walk proudly in their skin” and I’d say true but they are in the minority and although I can attest that many or us are gloriously following this trend, too many of us are not.

I have one friend that never tells her age, she’s well into her 70s and looks at least 15 years younger but refuses to proudly share that, why? Because according to her, when people hear how old you are, they begin to set limits on you. Questions like “Why would you do that? Or why would you wear that “at your age?”

Comment like “Don’t you think you’re too old for that?” Can be paralyzing, so we try to fool the world, to hide behind the forever 25, 35 or 40 last birthday moniker and not realize that no matter how much we dye, or Spanx it up, we are getting older and instead of fearing it, we should embrace it.

Think about that dream that you once put on the shelf and now, because the years have passed, you wonder, no you've decided that you can no longer pursue it. What about the goals you've set? Are you thinking that too much time has passed so you no longer have the passion to continue? Are you waiting for that right moment when the kids leave, or the right man comes along or the money is just right? What’s really holding you back besides the number that’s your age?

Growing older is a gift that many do not get (ask my dear friend who “went home” way too early at 36) and as we age, there are so many lessons that we've learned along the way that we can and should utilize.

We've hopefully learned to love ourselves more, to cherish our health, some financial freedom, our ability to make our own choices and our strength to say no to the negatives things and people in our lives. The old adage, "age brings reason," which means it makes us wiser, is absolutely freeing but in the end I know it’s not a freedom that everyone is ready to embrace.

So ladies Spanx it up as much as you like and guys buy yourself a new sports car, dye your hair or get back on the dating scene,  but don’t be ashamed of who you've become or are becoming as you walk life’s journey.

Embrace each moment, whilst looking forward to what the next stage brings. Each new day, each year older; is a blessing! A thing to be celebrated not feared!

So what about you? What are your thoughts on growing older? I would love to hear from you!

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Katyan Roach

hace 4 años #7

Purple would be my pick Claire L \ud83d\udc1d Cardwell ;-)

Claire L Cardwell

hace 4 años #6

Wow Katyan Roach ! Another great buzz. Over the last few years I have come under increasing criticism for refusing to dye my hair - I do have some white streaks at my temples. A la Mortica. Am thinking of dying them blue or purple.

Jan 🐝 Barbosa

hace 4 años #5

Loved 35 !!! Lots of experience and the body still working perfectly !!!! Now being 45+ 😎 Starting to need glasses and my isual 45 minutes jogging routine is not enough to get me below a 34 waistline... the fact i am the only GenX in a millennial ofice now makes me more obvious of my age 😆🤔

Katyan Roach

hace 4 años #4

Michael O'Neil you made me laugh out loud!

David B. Grinberg

hace 4 años #3

Nice buzz, Katyan! A few thoughts: 1) I always tell people that age is just a number. It's not the number of years in one's life but the life in those years. It's not how you look, but who you feel. 2) I think the aging issue increasingly applies to men in modern times, but no where near the level it applies to women. Just think about all those commercials for men about getting rid of gray hair or getting hair treatments to replace baldness, for example. However, as American poet and philosopher Henry David Thoreau wrote in his book, Walden, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." Sure that sounds bleak but I think it's somewhat applicable during the "midlife crisis" stage and thereafter. You know, when a 50-something guy purchases that hot new sports car. 3) Per the above point, there's no doubt that society and the media put undue pressure on women to look good. But that's really superficial when you think about it because what really counts in on the inside, not the outside -- per the old saying, "Don't judge a book by its cover." It would be nice if the media/entertainment industry would portray women as more than mere physical beings who must appear emaciated to purportedly look good. That's all for now. Keep buzzing, Katyan!

Katyan Roach

hace 4 años #2

Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier I could not agree with you more. We must learn to love the skin we're in no matter what our ages!

Katyan Roach

hace 4 años #1

LOL Helena Jansen van Vuuren you're spirit is infectious! I love it!!! Thanks for sharing you made my day!

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